Also known as: Ozy Thought Of Some More Words That Need Defining.
Intersectionality: Some people are part of more than one group that has bad things happen to them. Those people hurt more and in different ways than people who are only part of one group that has bad things happen to them. But some of the bad things that happen to them mean that people don’t listen to them as much, which is bad, because they’re hurting more. It is good to make sure you listen to people who are part of more than one bad-things group.
Rape Culture: Some people think it is okay to fuck people who don’t want to fuck them. Even though not many people fuck people who don’t want to fuck them, lots of people act like it is normal or okay to fuck someone who doesn’t want to fuck you.
How do you act like it is normal or okay to fuck someone who doesn’t want to fuck you? Lots of ways! You might think that it is okay if someone did a bad thing and then got fucked when they didn’t want to, because they did a bad thing. You might say that people can’t stop themselves when they see someone pretty, so they have to fuck them. You might say that only bad people fuck people who don’t want to be fucked, and your friend is not a bad person, so they didn’t fuck someone who didn’t want to be fucked. You might say that while it might be bad to fuck someone who doesn’t want to be fucked, it’s okay to touch someone who doesn’t want to be touched. You might say that it is hard to tell when someone wants to be fucked, or that some people pretend not to want to be fucked as a game. You might say that some people always want to be fucked.
Femmephobia: Some people think that women are worse than men, which is bad. Some people– even people that know that women are just as good as men– think that things that more women like are worse than things more men like. It is bad, they say, to want to be pretty or to like keeping things clean or to cry. But all those things are good things! They are only bad when someone thinks that women have to like them because they are women. Some people think that hating things women like is a way of hating women, just more hidden.
Derailing: Some people are concerned about things. They think, “this thing I am concerned about is very important! In fact, it is so important that I should talk to these people, who are talking about something kind of like my thing, and tell them all about my thing.” But those people do not want to talk about the other person’s thing, and it makes them sad that that person is making them talk about it.
Sometimes, the people really are ignoring a very important thing that they shouldn’t be ignoring. They might talk about how women need to pay cleaning women so they can work, but ignore that the cleaning women are women too. That is good to point out! But you have to make sure that it is an important thing that matters to the conversation the people are having, and not just something you like to talk about.
Erasure: Lots of people think of some kinds of people as Normal. The most Normal people are white men who want to fuck women, have never had everyone think that they were women, have as much money as most people, and have bodies and brains that work the way most people’s do. The less Normal you are, the fewer stories people write about you– both true stories and made-up stories. It That means that people who are Normal don’t know what it’s like to not be Normal. And people who are not Normal are sad because they don’t get to read stories about people like them.
Neurotypical: Some people have brains that work different than other people’s brains. Sometimes their brains work less well, sometimes they work better, sometimes they work better in some ways and worse in other ways, and sometimes they don’t work better or worse at all, just different. If your brain works the way most people’s does, you are ‘neurotypical’.
Ableism: Some people have bodies or brains that are different from most people’s bodies or brains. Because their bodies or brains are different, they might need different things than most people do. But since everything is set up for people who don’t have different brains or bodies, people with different brains or bodies find it hard to do lots of things that people who don’t have different brains or bodies can do easily. But people with different brains or bodies can do lots of things if you set things up with them in mind, not with other people in mind.